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Crazy Asian Parent

How many of you people have problems with your mom?

Probably many, more than what people expected.

I had problems with my mother.  And since people had things to do, places to go and people to see, I'll make this one short.
  1. She calls me fat even when I weight 120 lbs at the height of 5'2".
  2. She tells me that I'm stupid at everything, that I don't have common sense and I'm only book smart.
  3. She tells me that I have problems with my temper when in fact she like changes her mood every 5 seconds.
  4. She nags and nags that we waste a lot of money even when we buy her stuff for her birthday or for Mother's day.
  5. She reads my text messages and emails and NEVER asks my permission.
  6. She thinks that when I help her I'm trying to go against her and tell her that she's useless.
  7. But when I don't help her she will scream at me and say that I'm a good for nothing child who has no respect.
  8. She kept on complaining that she doesn't feel well, but when I ask her to go to the doctor she'll accuse me that I want her to die early.
  9. She thinks that all the people in the house is against her or hate her, but in reality she just changes her mood SO MUCH that we really don't know what she really wants.  She's paranoid beyond comprehension.
  10. She screams at me that I'm stupid and that I'm an ungrateful person that she should not have fed me my whole life.
See here, I'm not going to call her crazy.  I'm not accusing her that she's a crazy ass bitch or something like that.  What complicates this situation is that I know what my mother has, and I know what she's feeling.

Because I am a doctor.

No, I'm not just any medical student in their freshmen year trying to impress people that they got into med school.  No - I have my license to prove it.

So I can't do anything about it, because another thing that complicates it is that I'm Asian.  You know traditional Asian people - they're afraid of white/black people, they're afraid of medicine, they accuse doctors of giving them diseases, and they treat their kids like a slaves when they get older because THE ASIAN PARENTS FED THEM WITH RICE AND SOY SAUCE.

I am grateful - I'm not denying that.  But what I am hating silently right now is that they do not listen to my advices even when it's legitimate or logical, just because I'm their child, I AM ONLY THEIR CHILD AND NOTHING MORE.

So, to the readers out there, I want you to leave a comment below and tell me - do you have any problems with your parent/s?  And if you do, what are they?  How do you get by living with them everyday?

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brave_mission
Jan. 14th, 2010 11:37 am (UTC)
I soooo understand where you're coming from!
Believe me, you are sane.
I am the daughter of a mother who tried to deny her Asian blood - she said when she saw my dark skin she was terrified people would know. I grew up despite her attempts to drive me insane / kill me.
So I congratulate you a) for surviving b) for keeping your integrity
c) for not lowering yourself to that level d) for making a success of your life e) for remaining optimistic and being cheerful f) for communicating your problem succinctly g) for still being able to love her.

Are you be able to forgive your mother's mistakes?
(Her biggest being that she did not love her own daughter, or value her nearly enough).




xhatingsilently
Jan. 20th, 2010 07:25 pm (UTC)
Thanks... I have the same problem with you too, like the skin color shit, but thank goodness my dad's skin is dark colored too, and I always point it out to her that her kids can't choose their genes and it's her fault she married a dark-skinned person so one of her kid is "black".

Can I forgive my mother? I will, if she helps herself in getting her butt to see the psychiatrist and admit that she has psych problems.

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